What You Will Learn in Our Relationship Workshop
About the Approach
Is this Couples Workshop for Us*
Meet your Workshop Facilitators
When, Where, How Much?
What You Will Learn in Our Relationship Workshop
The Seven Principles Program will give you new insights and researched-based relationship skills that can dramatically improve the intimacy and friendships in your relationship and help you resolve conflict in a healthy way.
YOU WILL LEARN HOW TO:
This class combines teaching and demonstrations with one-on-one breakout sessions where you and your partner focus on your relationship with each other. Confidentiality is strictly maintained. Although we encourage questions and comments, you do not need to speak in the workshop if you do not want.
The Seven Principles Program is 12 hours of teaching broken down into 6 two-hour class modules.
About the Approach
This program is based upon the New York Times best seller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John Gottman, Ph.D.
Straightforward in its approach yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in Dr. Gottman's groundbreaking book teach partners new and startling strategies for making their relationships work.
For over 30 years Dr. Gottman scientifically analyzed the habits of married couples and established a method of correcting the behaviors that put thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples focus on each other and the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship.
This class is designed to strengthen your marriage or committed relationship. If you already have a strong relationship, this class will provide you with insights and tools to make it even better. If your relationship is distressed, this class will provide a road map for repair.
Research shows that on average, couples wait 2.68* years from the first sign of problems before they seek help. Please don't wait any longer to get help. More and more, couples are seeking relationship education before they even have any “problems”. Be proactive and learn what decades of research teach us about creating long-term, happy and healthy relationships.
*Doherty WJ, Harris SM, Hall EL, Hubbard AK. How long do people wait before seeking couples therapy? A research note. J Marital Fam Ther. 2021;47;882-890. http://doi.org/10.111/jmft.12479
Is this Couples Workshop for Us?*
*If you are dealing with emotional abuse, domestic violence, unwanted touch, or substance abuse, this class is not appropriate, and you should instead seek individual or couples therapy.
Meet Your Workshop Facilitators
Sam and Kerri Moehlenpah, LMFT are authorized Seven Principles Program Educators who will lead the workshop and teach you what successful couples specifically do to create long-lasting loving relationships, as well as the benefits of a stable, committed relationship.
Why The Marriage Guides?
Many couples have difficulty finding the time to actually focus and work on their relationship. Typically, this means trying to coordinate schedules, finding a time after work, between kids sports commitments, arranging a babysitter and then doing that on a consistent basis.
This can be a huge challenge in a fast paced society.
We tried to learn from our private practice couples and create a solution where much of the prep work and follow up could be done at your own pace.
Here our initial sessions are 1.25 hours in length with both of us. These sessions are long enough to get some serious work done. You will learn specific insights on negative patterns and identify positive alternatives to help get back on track.
Meeting with Both of Us
This is pretty unique. It's a bit of a unicorn but it's something we both really enjoy. By meeting with both of us, you get to see two different perspectives at work. Not only do you get to see how we both work together as a couple but also see how our individual strengths get to shine. While Kerri's strengths allow her to stay on task, teach necessary skills and follow through with a clear actionable plan. Sam's strengths help him quickly make connections with couples and quickly identify patterns, and create one of a kind word pictures/analogies for couples to better conceptualize their relationship.
Positioned for Success
Ultimately, if your marriage is going to get to your dream destination it’s going to be because you implemented the things you learned. A true guides role is not to necessarily do the heavy lifting but to point people in the right direction to accomplish their goals.
We have designed a package that focuses on self-reliance and guidance rather than rescue and intervention. We think this benefits everyone in the long run. We often say it’s our goal to work ourselves out of a job.
We have access to lots of tools and exercises that can help you on your journey.
Who and Why
First of all, congratulations for just being here! Research says that couples usually wait at least 6 years AFTER noticing significant problems before seeking help. So you are already well on your way to improving your relationships.
If you are here, we are going to make a few assumptions:
1. You are looking for answers...you want someone who knows what they are doing and who will tell you the truth.
2. You are willing to "do what it takes" to save your relationship and make it better.
3. You want to have a great marriage not just survive it.
4. You like us. You might not know us, but you probably already know if you like us or not.
You should probably like us especially since we are going to work on your most important relationship together.
We believe in you. We believe that you and your relationship CAN change. We believe in the value and sanctity of your marriage. We are convinced that marriage is more than merely a "contract" or "piece of paper." We also believe that healthy marriages are the not only the foundation for healthy lives but healthy families.
We are definitively PRO-MARRIAGE, meaning we want you to win at marriage so you don't have to worry we won't be suggesting divorce no matter how bad things look right now. Why? Well, for starters, that simply isn't our place. Ultimately what happens with your marriage will be your decision and the result of the choices you make. However, in our opinion just because things may seem hopeless at this moment and you may be deeply unsatisfied with your relationship, it doesn't mean that it should end. In fact we have research and experience with couples that says otherwise! (Check out this study.)
We are committed to not take either parties' side but rather stand on the side of your marriage and fight for it.
Now just to be clear, by 'saving a marriage' we do not mean simply keeping two people physically together where one or both spouses are miserable. We call ourselves "Thrive At Home" because we believe that spouses can discover renewed purpose, connection, value and joy together, allowing them to turn the page and begin to write a different ending to their marriage story, filled with new and exciting chapters. We know that as counselors we can't "fix" the problem for you. We also know that not every relationship will make it. But for those who are willing to try...we can set the stage for a MARRIAGE COMEBACK!
If you weren't happy with yesterday,
try something different today. Don't stay stuck. Do better.
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